Blog Post #275 Winners / losers / good sports / whiners

Yes, it is “March Madness” again.  Where the NCAA picks 64 teams to play against each other in both Men’s and Women’s Basketball (for Division I); plus Hockey (Frozen Four for Men and Women); Wrestling and possibly others.

Americans love their sports (not that the rest of the world doesn’t love their sports either – soccer (aka “fuitbol” and “football”) enthusiasts also go crazy over their sports.  

The National Collegiate Athletic Association (NCAA) is a powerful entity on campuses.  They will get a lot of television revenue, plus ticket revenue. Where colleges generally have free or reduced costs for students to attend games on campus; almost all have to pay now to attend games.  Plus airlines, hotels, restaurants and others that are involved in the travel business get a cut too. Many campuses conveniently take spring break this week so students (and supporters) can travel to the games.

I have a friend who LOVES college sports.  During fall football season he watches ALL bowl games (including recording games to watch later).  LIkewise now in March Madness, he takes time off to watch the games.

There will be winners and losers.  Out of 64 teams in the Men’s Tournament, only one team will end up – and 63 teams will be losers.  Some games will be blow-outs (especially as #1 seeds in each region beat up of #16 seeds); and many will be close.  Seeing some early results, there will be upsets where #13 seeds Marshall and Loyola-Chicago defeated #4 seeds (Wichita State and Arizona).  

Campus pep bands will be there pumping out fight songs and oldie hits; there will be students with their face painted.  Cheerleaders will be making pyramids and leading the followers in chants.

And … as can happen, there may also be some poor losers.  Maybe some supporters of losing teams will be drunk and maybe throw rocks and harass the other team’s supporters.  Maybe there will be negative signs like F*** YOU <team-name>.

I was the faculty advisor for the pep band before retiring.  While we (the band) was generally good sports), some of our fans (frequently drunk) would yell negative comments.  Our campus’ Athletic Director stopped the pep band from playing a particular song as the partisan fans would yell “You Suck” or worse to that song.

Then there are the referee baiters.  It can be a tough life making a split second decision on fouls and ball possession.  Television commentators may even add to that chaos as they replay the action and go frame by frame through the foul and announce to the world that the referees ‘blew’ that call.  And, there may be the team coaches after the game who proclaim on television that their team was robbed from moving on in the tournament by some bad calls.

Of course, it is a sport.  It is for well trained players under the direction of coaches (and assistant coaches and trainers, and athletic directors) give lip-service to the concept of good sportsmanship.  We might see after a close game that a coach may not shake the hand of the opposing coach in a loss.

Sometimes we lose sight of the event.  Yes, we all want our teams to win, yes; we all are partisan; but in the majority of cases the team that wins was the best team ON THAT DAY.  if those same two teams were to play another day, the outcome might be different.

So, we have winners – we need to be good winners; we have losers and we need to be good losers; and we have whiners.  We need to stop ‘whining’ and move on.

(As I’m writing this, I am reflecting on other parts of society – where some whiners are still upset about political outcomes.  Agree or disagree on the outcome – support the process and be a good sport.

As Grantland Rice wrote years ago: ““For when the One Great Scorer comes t0o mark against your name, he writes – not that you won or lost -but HOW you played the Game.”

What do you think?  Are you a winner or a loser?  Are you a good sport – or a whiner?

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Blog Post #274 What you think, you become

Yes – what goes into your brain becomes YOU!!!!

One of the early Beatles Songs was “I’m a Loser” – where the concept is that the guy lost his girlfriend and calls himself a ‘loser’:

I’m a loser, I lost somebody near to me

I’m a loser, and I’m not what I appear to be.

I don’t sing those lyrics – although it is a catchy tune and I love the Beatles.  I don’t want my words to say that I’m a loser. I am NOT a loser; I am a WINNER!!!!!!

I hear a lot of people putting themselves down.  “Oh, I don’t remember names well”; “I just can’t lose weight”; “My arthritis is getting worse”.

These are such negative statements.  I try to put POSITIVITY into my brain!!!

What are you thinking today?  Positive thoughts? What is your self-talk today?  Positive? What are your goals for the future – upward and success (or downward and failure).

PUT the good stuff in your brain – speak the good stuff to yourself – and to others.

I tell my wife she is pretty (and she is).  She most frequently says “I’m not pretty”. In her brain she is thinking negative.

Stand up tall and yell “I’M A WINNER” – repeat it all day.

Accentuate the positive, eliminate the negative was an old song from the 1930’s.  And that is true – do accent the positive. A friend was talking about Kenya – where running water in households is rare – and that the people are generally very happy.

Attitude – what does into your brain becomes YOU!

What do you think?  Are you positive TODAY – and ALL DAYS?

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Blog Post #273 Some history

This Saturday is March 17th – St. Patrick’s Day – a day to celebrate the Irish.

There is an expression “The luck of the Irish”.  Having been to Ireland twice and read Irish history, I think that is incorrect.  The Irish were beset by Cromwell, by the English. There were religious wars (Protestant versus Catholic).  It is ironic that King Henry VIII was honored by the leader of the Catholic Church at the time of the Reformation as a ‘defender of the faith’ only to start his own denomination later so he could divorce / kill wives so he could have a male heir to the throne – and that same church (Church of England) as the official state church later was the official state church of Ireland when Ireland was under British Control.

Ireland lost about half its population in ten years from 1840 to 1850 because of the potato famine.  Seemingly potatoes were the mainstay food for many Irish families and when a deficiency in trace minerals occurred and the potatoes died, many starved.  I’ve seen pictures of bodies stacked up on carts to be taken to the cemetery. The younger who managed to scrape up a little cash, left for America or other places.  And, even then were discriminated against in America. The “Know Nothings” group and others claimed the Irish were poor and parasites on humanity. In New York City, the Irish had their neighborhoods and policed themselves.  Now used as a football mascot, the ‘fighting Irish’ was true – with fights and poverty.

Now 170 years later, the Irish-Americans are well established and well respected.  LIke many cultures, they have married across cultural barriers.

Having marched in the New York City St. Patrick’s Day parade for many years with Quinnipiac University; having been to the Irish Great Hunger Museum at Quinnipiac University and having been to Ireland (and married to a woman of Irish descent), I understand that it took time for the ‘luck of the Irish’ to come through.

Our battles in civil rights keep changing.  Some are close to solved (although as a white American male, I many not understand what has yet to happen).  Women still don’t make the same as corresponding males. Blacks are still discriminated against (most notably when stopped for traffic violations).   There is discrimination against Hispanics, transgender, gays, and others.

Can we ever live in peace?  Can we ever “love one-another as I have loved you” as Jesus said.

Is there hope for mankind? What do you think?

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Blog Post #272 Adaptability

Are you adaptable?  

A while back an accident farther down the road from me and my car backed up traffic for miles.  I had choices – yell, scream, be upset, or … just take it as it was (and pray that nobody was seriously injured in the accident).

All of the cars of the road had to edge together as police and emergency vehicles drove on the shoulder to get around us and to the scene of the accident.  Eventually about 15 minutes later, the police started routing traffic onto a side street for a couple of blocks so that we could get to where we were going.  

Yes, I needed to adapt to the situation.

I have talked of goals frequently in this blog.  Using SMART goals (specific, measurable, attainable, relevant and timely) to move forward.  But sometimes we have to adapt to reach those goals.

Years ago when Mt Everest was determined to be the highest mountain in the world and some people started to climb it by going through China.  There were routes and camps along a promising path to get to the summit. (Although nobody get get to the summit then). But, then China closed it borders to mountain climbers, so the climbers had to find a new route.  

So, if our goal was to climb Mt Everest we might have had to adapt to changing political conditions.

Maybe I have a goal of becoming a “C” level executive in our company, and then some bad financial news happens and I got laid off – time to reevaluate the goal – maybe becoming a “C” level executive in another company is similar enough.  

Maybe we have our education and professional goals, but “aha” I fell in love with the cute girl in my finance course, and my plans changed as we pursued marriage and then a family.  Maybe you were on the fast track to being a partner in one of the Big Four Accounting Companies – and you got tired of the long, long hours and travel (and being away from family and hobbies), and you had to adapt your goals to be a partner is a local / regional accounting firm.  

I know many students who at age 18, 19 or 20, had their plans to major in a particular field and become a professional in the field (like computing), only to hear of other opportunities.

One former student was the son of an entrepreneur who had built a worldwide company.  He pursued his technical degree and was well regarded by the technology company who hired him.  They were grooming him for higher positions in that company, when his father took ill and the son adapted to the family business and eventually took over (and continued to grow that business).

Nature talks of the ‘survival of the fittest’ meaning the weak and unadaptive die off.  Are you adapting to your situation and environment? What does it take to adapt and yet keep your goals and focus?

What about you?  Are you adaptable?  Can you make lemonade when life gives you lemons? Can you make the adjustments needed to more forward?  How are you going to do it?


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Blog Post #271 Make the status quo painful and the new reality beautiful

Change – always tough.  

We are in the process of changing seasons in North America.  People (especially in some parts of the country) are getting tired of ice and snow.  For other parts of the country, this change will lead to a hot summer (like in Arizona and Texas).  The seasons change – not by our will – but by nature. The Earth is on a tilted axis – so the southern hemisphere is closer to the sun in our ‘winter’ and the northern hemisphere is closer in our ‘summer’.  (Of course summer in the northern hemisphere is winter in the southern hemisphere and visa versa).

The change of seasons in the north frequently brings on harsh weather.  A little later in spring we’ll have more tornados (especially in tornado alley of Oklahoma and Kansas).  Battling cold and warm fronts will push storms eastward.

But while change is periodical / seasonal in weather, personal change is determined by us.

As I set today and write, I’m being a ‘couch potato’.  I should get up and outside and get a nice walk in. I should walk to a shop about a mile-and-one-half and pick up something my wife wants – and walk back.  The weather is clear but cooler (mid-sixties) – but ideal for a walk – so why am I not outside and going?

The status quo of just sitting and writing is easier than launching out on the walk.  Inertia is not my friend today (or most days).

One successful ploy is to make the status quo painful.  Maybe I should be sitting in a hard wooden chair. It might be comfortable for say 30 minutes and then it will become uncomfortable.  With each passing minute, the chair will become harder. My bottom will be tired of that hard chair. That would make the new reality more attractive.  

We may need to play mind games with ourselves – “the grass is really greener on the other side of the fence”.  We need to get up and moving on our new projects. Inertia says ‘stay where you are’; motivation says “Get going – there a new horizons and new adventures starting when we move out of our comfort zone.

Make the status quo painful.  Make change inviting and so very promising that we can’t just sit, but we have to move.

So, I’m starting to rush this blog post – so I can get going.  I have things to do and the status quo is not advancing anything!!

What about you?  Can you make the status quo painful enough to get you moving and growing?  How are you going to do it?


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Blog Post #270 Fire and Ice

Blog Post #270 Fire and Ice

Using another Robert Frost Poem today – Fire and Ice

Here is the poem:

Some say the world will end in fire,

Some say in ice.

From what I’ve tasted of desire

I hold with those who favor fire.

But if it had to perish twice,

I think I know enough of hate

To say that for destruction ice

Is also great

And would suffice.


Fire and ice – opposites – will we burn up – or freeze up.  Frost uses the word “desire” – which I think is extreme passion as fire; and he uses the word ‘hate’ for the coldness of heart and for the end of the world by ice.  

As I write, Syria is still engulfed in a civil war.  I will admit I don’t truly understand the conflict other than what I hear.  To my ears it seems like the President of Syria is a ruthless dictator who wants to squelch the opposition; to others it seems like the rebels want to get rid of the President.  The consequences are that many in the middle get hurt (or killed). The news coverage shows cities bombed out, and that humanitarian help is frequently too little, too late. I don’t know if this qualifies as ‘ice’ for the coldness of heart to want to destroy others, or fire with extreme passion to destroy others.  At what point is warfare necessary? Was the American Civil War and the terrible death toll necessary? In some respects it said “We are ONE union – and although there has been talk about this state or that state (Texas or California) leaving the union, it just will not happen. Did a northern army have to fight a southern army of fellow citizens to end slavery and to end the argument about state’s rights?  Could a court case solve the issue?

Hatred is part of the human mind.  It is easy to hate another person for their color, creed, national origin, sexual orientation, etc.  It was Protestant Christians fighting Catholic Christians in Northern Ireland for years (fortunately now settled); it is Sunni Muslims fighting Shiite Muslims.

People hate others without walking a mile in their shoes.  People hate because of political differences. People hate others for a lot of pretty poor reasons (in my opinion).  

Norman Rockwell painted the four freedoms in the 1940’s – Freedom of Speech, Freedom of Worship; Freedom from Want; Freedom from Fear.  Shouldn’t those four freedoms still be part of us?

So, fire or ice?  How do you think the world will end?  Mass nuclear bombs killing us all off?  Or might peace and compromise still prevail? AAC

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Blog Post #269:  Daylight savings time

Today marks the first day of Daylight Savings Time in the United States.  

I do remember the lack of standard DST growing up.  I lived in Cedar Rapids Iowa – a town that observed daylight savings; my cousins lived in Maquoketa Iowa – a farm town that did not observe daylight savings.  I was going to Maquoketa for a week and I reset my wristwatch to the Maquoketa time (that is – non daylight savings).

Time standardization can largely be attributed to railroads.  Communities had sundials or some mechanism to determine when the sun was directly overhead – which became noon.  So, Chicago and Lincoln Nebraska are both in the Central Time district in the United States but the sun time (noon with the sun directly overhead) would come sooner in Chicago than in Lincoln.  Now trains running from Chicago to (say) Denver had a time table. If (considering stops and speed) it took six hours from Chicago to Lincoln, and the train left Chicago at 12:00 noon; it would be 6:00 p.m. when it got to Lincoln.  But, it might be that Lincoln, using suntime, would be 5:45 or so. The railroads standardized the time and the time zones.

But, back to daylight savings time.  I am a proponent of DST. I’m writing this about 8:00 p.m. and it is dark in central Texas.  Even in mid summer (say June 21st), by 8:00 it is getting dark in Austin. But, what if I want to mow my lawn after work, or play gold or go fishing.  By adjusting the clock reading so that sun time of 8:00 p.m. becomes daylight savings time of 9:00 p.m. I can mow my lawn (or golf or fish) later. If I am working, so I get up and it might be still dark or just beginning to lighten up for the day.  That’s okay as long as after work I get that extra time for me – time to take a walk in the light.

The biggest hassle seems to come with schools.  If daylight savings was year around, school buses would be picking up kids in the dark.  

I did find some quotes for (and against) daylight savings time:

  • From Sir Arthur Conan Doyle (of Sherlock Holmes novels): “It seems very strange … that in the course of the world’s history so obvious an improvement should never have been adopted. … The next generation of Britishers would be the better for having had this extra hour of daylight in their childhood.
  • Benjamin Franklin: “I say it is impossible that so sensible a people [citizens of Paris], under such circumstances, should have lived so long by the smoky, unwholesome, and enormously expensive light of candles, if they had really known that they might have had as much pure light of the sun for nothing.”
  • From Victor Borge: “I don’t mind going back to daylight saving time. With inflation, the hour will be the only thing I’ve saved all year.

My computer will automatically adapt to the new time.  I will have to change a few clocks, my watch and the car dashboard time.  For more sunlight into the evening, I’m very willing to do that!

And … a small riddle.  What is the safest hour to live in the United States?  Fewest admissions to the emergency room, fewest traffic accidents, and fewest deaths?  Answer:  two to three a.m. on Daylight Savings Sunday – the few statistics come from Arizona and Hawaii that don’t observe DST!!!

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Blog Post #268:  Basketball Thoughts

March Madness Basketball Tournament is coming, so I thought I’d look at basketball quotations today:

From Larry Bird: “A winner is someone who recognizes his God- given talents, works his tail off to develop them into skills, and uses these skills to accomplish his goals.”

From Michael Jordan: “You have to expect things of yourself before you can do them.” and another Michael Jordan quote: “”Some people want it to happen, some wish it would happen, others make it happen.”

Three John Wooden quotes:  “Whatever you do in life, surround yourself with smart people who’ll argue with you.” – “Talent is God given. Be humble. Fame is man-given. Be grateful. Conceit is self-given. Be careful.” -“If you’re not making mistakes, then you’re not doing anything. I’m positive that a doer makes mistakes.”

Success thrives on talent, but taking that talent and (as Larry Bird says) works hard to develop the talent and to achieve his/her goals.  

John Wooden says that mistakes are normal – if you are NOT making mistakes you are NOT doing anything.  Take your mistakes and climb over them to success.

There are thousands of universities in the United States.  Some are NCAA division I (which will be the focus of most of the March Madness); some are division II and division III; some are NAIA schools and there are some that do not field athletic teams.  There are many thousand of players in a multitude of sports. Why aren’t all teams successful? Why aren’t all athletes successful?

You need goals (and … not just basketball goals); you need to have a vision; you need to work hard towards your goals and vision.

Maybe you are reaching your goals – like I was as a player on a basketball team – but I didn’t aspire to much more than being on the team – I didn’t work towards being anything but a substitute, a bench-warmer.  If I knew then what I know now, I could have worked harder and achieved more.

Do you have goals?  Are you REALLY serious about them?  Are you REALLY working on them? Maybe your skills are in music or business or journalism or something else – but you need to find your talents and build them to be the best.  

You can do it – but it isn’t easy.  If it was easy, I’d be in the Basketball Hall of Fame!!!

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Blog Post #267:  Quotes for International Women’s Day (March 8)

Yesterday (March 8th) was International Women’s Day.  I am a day late, but wanted to look at a few quotes about women. (selected from:

From Farrah Fawcett: ““God gave women intuition and femininity. Used properly, the combination easily jumbles the brain of any man I’ve ever met.”

From Margaret Thatcher: “”If you want something said, ask a man; if you want something done, ask a woman.”

From Harriet Beecher Stowe: “”Women are the real architects of society.”

As remarked before I greatly appreciate women (more so in the past few years).  I have learned much about women and their roles in society.

I grew up in a man dominated society.  My mother was a ‘stay-at-home-mother’ for part of her adult life, but them roared back into the workforce as a teacher – educating young minds.  My wife was a stay-at-home-mother for our children’s early years, but also roared back as an educator, a grant writer, a federal analyst, a small business owner and librarian.  Our daughter currently is a stay-at-home-mother (the twins just turned five), but I anticipate that she will be a real leader in the coming years when the girls go to school.

Farrah Fawcett’s comment hits many areas.  I see couples where the woman is intellectually above her husband; looking feminine, while he looks like he still is working on dressing himself.  Now looks are not everything – but there is a comfort when an articulate women is using her brain to make a point.

That leads to the second quote from Margaret Thatcher – former prime minister of the United Kingdom.  If you want something done, ask a woman. Men like to talk, while women take action (now, that is a generalization – but worth considering).  My wife can work circles around me – multitasking, organizing (currently organizing the kitchen cleaning products while I write this blog), and directing activities.  

And finally from Harriet Beecher Stowe, writer of Uncle Tom’s Cabin – a very persuasive author – who emulates her quote as an architect of society.

I was listening to an audible book on “How Women Decide” by Therese Hudson; and it talks how men have put women down over the years.  I remember (and cringe) at a friend’s comment that women should be “fat, barefoot and pregnant”. (I think he was trying to be funny as his wife was a senior IT executive at Notre Dame University – and very successful).

Women do have a valued place in society – and men (generally) have tried to put ‘them in their places’.  To my male counterparts – wise up!!!!

I do appreciate what femininity that I have deep inside – and urge strong women to take their place and lead humanity forward.

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Blog Post #266:  Two roads in the woods

Today I’m looking at Robert Frost’s famous poem about two roads diverging in the woods:

Two roads diverged in a yellow wood

And sorry I could not travel both

And be one traveler, long I stood

And looked down one as far as I could

To where it bent in the undergrowth

(more to the poem)

Two roads diverged in a wood, and I –

I took the one less traveled by,

And that has made all the difference We do come to junctures frequently.  We are at points of tough decisions. Making the tough decisions.  

For many of us, those decisions are challenges for us.  Sometimes we MUST take the well traveled road – the road that is worn, the road that seems maybe easier.  Sometimes we MUST take the road less traveled.

I’m not the expert to suggest which one is the best for you.  There is a suggestion that you can’t discover new lands unless you leave the sight of the shore.  

I have two friends (and their family) that a year ago left their job and moved to Australia for the year.  Their sons got to go to the barrier reef, to the Australian Open Tennis tournament, to many places that were not possible to them if they were in the United States and only were tourists to Australia.  

They recently returned – and are back to ‘almost normal’, but the ‘normal’ will never be normal again.  They have been changed by this year in Australia for them. They saw an opportunity for them and took the road less traveled by.

I left a solid, secure and ‘tenured’ position twice for the road less traveled by.  After teaching high school for seven years, I left for a one-year position at a college; after teaching at a great university for eighteen years, I left for a position in another state.  The first change brought me the ‘desire of my heart’ – the desire to teach at a college. The second change brought me to international travel, to a Fulbright experience, to national prominence and some great experiences.  Then there was the third move – to Texas to be close to our family (and our new-born ‘perfect’ granddaughters).

I also know friends who have worked the same job for 40 plus years.  Not sure if opportunities came their way – or that they saw a ‘road less traveled’.  Maybe they saw the opportunity – and decided not to take it. To be safe and secure.

It is hard for me to say if they were right or wrong.  We all make our own decisions.

How about you?  Have you had those tough decisions?  How did you make the decision.


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