Blog Post #507 Retirement and Family

Coaching for Life Success – Retirement #7 – Family

We’ve been following Zig Ziglar’s seven spokes (financial, spiritual, family, work/career, physical health, mental help, and personal/social).  Today the last – looking at the Family spoke.

The second article says:

“Retirement is when you reap what you have been sowing all these years. Only this article is about family and not about money. Far too often I have interviewed individuals approaching retirement and their biggest concern is that they have spent so much time and energy on their career and planning for their financial future that they have neglected to nurture one of their most valuable assets: Family!!!”

So, how is your family relationship?  Did you ignore them as you worked through life?  Did you separate or divorce your spouse? Do you have children that you rarely see?  How about grandchildren that you rarely see.

It is time to mend fences.  Go see your children, visit your cousins, see your extended family.  If you have not spent enough time building a relation, try Facetime or Google Hangout (or even Skype) to see each other and talk.  It doesn’t have to be a high-level philosophical discussion. If you don’t agree on politics or religion, then don’t talk about those topics.  Talk about what you are doing and what they are doing.

Yes, friends are important.  But, who is around to take you in when you can’t drive anymore (but not bad enough for an assisted living or nursing home care).  Your close friend Marge probably is about the same shape you are in, and she would wonder why she is going to take you into her house.

Forgive one-another.  Love one-another. Be the ‘bigger person’ and go to them to be reconciled.  

Matthew 5:23-24 says “Therefore, if you are offering your gift at the altar and there remember that your brother or sister has something against you, leave your gift there in front of the altar. First, go and be reconciled to them; then come and offer your gift.”

What do you think?  Can ‘bygones’ be forgotten?  Can you reconcile with that ‘hard to love’ person?



Posted by Bruce White

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