Blog Post #498 – Mentally Tough

Coaching for Life Success:  Being mentally tough

Today an interesting article about being mentally tough.


Coaching for Life Success:  Attitude

I was surfing the internet the other day and saw a page that said a relentlessly positive attitude is so very important.

The article states: “Keep your eyes on the news for any length of time, and you’ll see that it’s just one endless cycle of war, violent attacks, fragile economies, failing companies, and environmental disasters. It’s easy to think the world is headed downhill fast.

“And who knows? Maybe it is. But mentally tough people don’t worry about that because they don’t get caught up in things they can’t control. Instead of trying to start a revolution overnight, they focus their energy on directing the two things that are completely within their power—their attention and their effort.

Don’t get caught up in things you can’t control.  

I’m an eternal optimist – everything is going to turn out well.  But, I know many pessimists.

Here is a fictitious story about two twin girls:

The family went to their barn and let the pessimistic girl choose which door to open.  She opened a door and there was a beautiful horse, gentle, just her size, with sharp eyes, a strong back, and a good disposition.  The girl started to cry.

The parents asked, “What’s wrong honey?”

The girl replied.  “Eventually this horse is going to get old and die and I will be so heartbroken at that time.”

The optimistic girl opened the second door.  It was full of manure and old hay. The optimistic girl was so excited.  She said, “With all this manure in here, there MUST be a horse for me!!”

What a difference a great attitude makes.  

I also remember Boy Scout camp.  Our troop seemed to pick the hottest days of the summer. The camp was on the shores of the Missouri River and the boys had to walk up-and-down all day long to get from one merit badge learning location to other locations.  It was easy to get very tired and very discouraged. There were some boys that complained all the time, but Nate was a real trooper. He was upbeat and excited about what he was doing. Nate eventually got selected to attend the United States Military Academy (aka “West Point”) – and I’m sure part of that selection was his attitude. (And, of course, being an Eagle Scout probably helped too!!)

The article also says “We all reach critical points in our lives where our mental toughness is tested. It might be a toxic friend or colleague, a dead-end job, or a struggling relationship.

Whatever the challenge, you have to be strong, see things through a new lens and take decisive action if you want to move through it successfully.”

“It sounds easy. We all want good friends, good jobs and good relationships. But it isn’t.  It’s hard to be mentally tough, especially when you feel stuck. The ability to break the mold and take a bold new direction requires that extra grit, daring and spunk that only the mentally toughest people have.”

“It’s fascinating how mentally tough people set themselves apart from the crowd. Where others see impenetrable barriers, they see challenges to overcome.”

So, how about you?  Are you mentally tough?


Posted by Bruce White

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