Blog Post #262:  (March 4) Honesty is the best policy

First – off on a tangent – today is one of those days when the date makes a phrase “March Forth” – so get out and march forth today!!!

Secondly – an old (kids) riddle.  Why am I so tired on April 1st?  After a ‘march’ of 31 days you would be tired too (from a guy who marched in too many parades over the years!!!)

Today’s proverb is: Honesty is the Best Policy”.

From: https://brightside.me/inspiration-psychology/why-honesty-is-always-the-best-policy-150505/ we have this:

  • “The truth will always come out, so by lying you are only ’buying time’ but it will probably be worse when it’s revealed that you lied as well.
  • You will feel better about yourself if you are honest and open.
  • Others will be able to trust you and trust is the basis for all relationships.
  • Others will seek your honest advice and opinion.
  • You won’t have to remember and maintain a web of lies. Lies usually lead to more lies to cover up the initial lies, creating a vicious cycle.
  • Lying is an easy way out, by being honest you learn to tackle difficult or uncomfortable situations and grow as a person.”

Sometimes it just seems easier to tell a little white lie.  Hope Hicks resigned from the Trump administration on March 1st, 2018.  A comment relating to that from Forbes Magazine was” President Trump had “berated” Hicks for admitting to the House Intelligence Committee that she told “white lies” on his behalf.”  

Eventually ‘the truth will come out’ according to this article.  Which side do you want to be on?  The truth or the cover-up.

How about when a wife asks her husband “Does this dress make me look fat?”.  How does a husband answer that?  

If the husband is truthful, and if the dress does make her look fat; is it better to say “yes, that dress makes you look fat” before she goes out in public and the people around her are whispering “she looks fat in that dress”.  Is it better if he says something non-committal like:  “Dear I think you look great in anything”.  Or should he suggest “Maybe that particular dress does make you look fat as it accents your hips (or your waist).  Maybe you’d look better in your black dress”.  Maybe having a third person involved – ask your children for their opinions “Mom, that dress does make you look fat”.  Or ask a neighbor (female) for her opinion.  

Your wife does want to look nice, and there are some colors, patterns, shades that maybe don’t look all that good on her; and maybe there are some colors that do look better.

Husbands – love your wives – is a good suggestion.  It might be hard to say “Dear you have grown fat over the years; you don’t exercise enough; you eat too much; you don’t take care of your body.  Yes, that dress does make you look and almost anything you wear will make you look fat – so hey – maybe it is time for you to change and lose weight.”  (Note – husbands you do need to love your wife – so if you do this, find a way to do it lovingly.  Let her come up with the conclusion that she needs to diet.  

Lies – white or black or otherwise – do have a way of getting back to us in a negative way.  Find ways to ‘speak the truth in love’.  That can be tough!!!

 

What do you think?

Let me know at:  brucewhitecoaching@gmail.com

Have a great day!!

Bruce

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