Blog Post #252 Complaining

One of my friends is very serious about health.  She has a blog and does programs on health and wellness.  She also is a very serious Christian.  For many, Lent is a time to give up something and instead reflect on God and God’s love and grace towards us.  Some give up things like chocolate, or television.  Some, instead of giving up something, add something – such as more prayer, more time spent with God.  

This friend writes in her blog that she is giving up complaining for Lent.  

She writes in her blog:

“I decided to give up COMPLAINING.  In today’s world of negativity, it is easy for all of us to find ourselves complaining about something.  We want things to happen the way we want them to, and we want people to do what we think they should or should not do.  Who put us in charge?

Instead of complaining, I’m going to make my best effort to look at the positive side of all circumstances.  I’m going to try to be an Alice Herz-Sommer.  Alice was a Holocaust survivor of Hitler’s concentration camps, but her husband and mother were killed.  Before she died in 2014 in England at the age of 110, she was interviewed by many, including Tony Robbins.  He asked her: “Don’t you hate the Nazis?”   Her reply: “Everything is a present.”  Alice refused to live a life of anger, hatred, and misery.  Instead, she elected to find the gift in life’s event, no matter how unwanted or unfair or atrocious.  Rather than live in the past, she elected to live in the present, finding peace, joy, and love.  By doing so, she gave inspiration and hope to millions who have also suffered from wrong doings.

As we encounter life’s difficulties, which we all will, let us strive to make peace with those events that are not in our control.  None of us have gone through anything unique.  Whatever unwanted event has happened to us has also happened to thousands, maybe millions.  The difference:  how we let the unwanted event affect our future.  We can live in misery or be an Alice and think of life as a gift.  If we do not let the past rule our lives, we are much more likely to make healthy / happy decisions, be less stressed out, and maybe make it to 110!  Let’s be BOLD. Let’s be different. Let’s look at all the positive things in our lives.  That’s my goal.  Every day say:  I am Blessed.  I am Grateful.

(taken from: by Patricia J. Sulak, MD

I like that – while I don’t think I really complain that much, but I do.  Even the things I can’t change – like the weather – I complain about.  “I’m tired of this cold and rainy weather”; “I wish my wife / (my husband) would be different”; “I’m tired of <whatever>”.  

If I can’t say something nice about something – I need to stop; reflect; and NOT complain – but give thanks and rejoice.

Like Patricia, I’m going to give up complaining – I’m going to rejoice instead.  1 Thessalonians 5:18 say “in everything give thanks; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you.”  I’m going to give thanks for rainy and cold weather.  I’m going to give thanks for my spouse.  I’m going to give thanks for my situation(s).  Rejoice – give thanks – and stop complaining!!!

What do you think?  Do you complain too much?  Do you talk about others?  

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Have a great day!!


Posted by Bruce White

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