Blog Post #238 – Hatred

Blog post #238 – Another bad word 

Last week I took a word I hate – “can’t”.  As Henry Ford said “If you say you can or if you say you can’t; you are correct”

Yesterday I was reminded of another word – HATE.  Now I used that word in the first paragraph.  But, the way that I HATE that word is when it is applied to people (and groups) and obviously to people or groups that you do not like.  

I see undisguised hatred in politics.  Maybe the word ‘hate’ isn’t directly used all the time; but the name calling does get old.  I have a friend (?) that calls the president an idiot (and worse) and then another friend who insults all the liberals he can.  

I saw the same Sunday with the Super Bowl.  I heard people say they “hated” one team or another.  I can see dislike, but actual “hate”.  Can the people I know who really don’t know Tom Brady (for example) really ‘hate’ him – and to pluck out his eyes, or crush him, or sentence him to hell?  

From an online dictionary, I found this: Hate (v): feel intense or passionate dislike for (someone). “the political candidates hate each other”’; synonyms:  loathe, detest, despise, dislike abhor, execrate.  

From 1 John 2: 9 in the Bible, I see: “He who says he is in the light and hates his brother is in the darkness still”; I also see “Love one-another (John 13:34).  

I know intense / passionate dislike for one another.  I have been on the wrong side of that too many times – mostly me hating others (not so much on people hating me – although I’m sure that happened).  My bias is that life is too short to have such a passionate hatred.  I wasn’t around during Hitler’s reign, and from I sense, I would have not liked him – although he did solve Germany’s terrible inflation and money problems during the Great Depression – before his heart really turned black.  But with my current acceptance and understanding, true / deep hatred is a terrible black spot on the soul.  Recently a man who was a trainer for women’s gymnastics for the Olympics was convicted of molesting many young female gymnasts.  At the sentencing, a father of one of the girls rushed the man as to kill him.  Yes, the man through the trial was convicted of vile and terrible things – and to one who only knows what television tells me – it seemed as if the judgment was just – and ultimately, he will have to stand before God.  Let God judge him.  I also know the scripture that says “Do not judge, lest you will be judged.”  In my reality, there is one final judge – God.  God does hate sin; but loves the sinner.  My time on earth is maybe 100 years – after that from my limited understanding (after all who can fully understanding God); eternity comes after my death.  Should I hate somebody so completely that I miss out on a pleasant eternity?

How about we get rid of that word – hate; and substitute something like “I really don’t like that person”?

The Native Americans supposedly had the concept – Don’t criticize a person until you have walked a mile in his moccasins – or until you have walked a mile in his shoes – until you really have gotten to know him.  Can I hate Tom Brady until I walk a mile in his cleats?  Can I hate Donald Trump until I walk a mile in his shoes?  Can I hate Hillary Clinton or Chuck Schumer or Nancy Pelosi or others until I walk a mile in their shoes?  

I know my problems – assuming others have their problems too (and as far as I know, there are very few truly perfect people around).  Maybe we should try to get alone – to learn to accept others as they are.  Why does the dictator of North Korea hate us?  (And … why do we hate him?)  Let us agree to disagree – but without being disagreeable.  (And following an idea from Scripture, maybe we should pray for those that we don’t like …)

What do you think?  Let me know at:  brucewhitecoaching@gmail.com

Thank you!!!

Bruce

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